For some parents, talking to their children about going to the dentist is already challenging enough, let alone discussing cavities and any procedures that may follow. We understand that. Even adults can feel stressed or anxious when they find out they have a cavity.
Here, our goal is to help parents navigate a conversation with their children about cavities without creating fear or anxiety for their kids or added stress for themselves.
Pick the Right Time
You’ve probably heard this before, but timing really does matter when having difficult conversations with kids. Bringing up topics such as cavities and the need for dental procedures, even something as simple as a filling, when your child is already upset, tired, or overwhelmed, can make the situation feel much bigger and scarier than it needs to be.
Instead, choose a moment when your child feels relaxed and is more likely to listen and cooperate. This can look different for every child, but it might be during a quiet car ride, while reading together before bed, or during a family meal.
Use Language That Won’t Scare Them
After telling your child they have a cavity, be prepared for a few questions. The way you talk about cavities can influence how your child feels about the situation. Try to avoid words that may sound scary, especially for younger children.
Instead, you can describe cavities as “tiny holes” in the teeth or “sugar bugs” that have been causing a little trouble.
If treatment is needed, focus on explaining how the dentist is going to help. For example, you might say that the dentist will clean the tooth and fix the small hole so it can stay healthy and strong.
Avoid Scare Tactics
It’s normal for some children to feel nervous or worried when talking about cavities. However, it’s important to avoid using fear or threats to explain why treatment is necessary. While it may seem like a way to get your child to cooperate, it can often make children feel even more anxious about both their cavity and their upcoming dental visit.
Don’t use phrases like “If you don’t get this fixed, your tooth will fall out,” “The dentist is going to drill your tooth,” or “This is what happens when you don’t take care of your teeth”. They can make the experience seem much more frightening than it actually is.
Instead, reassure your child that cavities are common and that dentists help children fix them every day. Let them know that the dentist’s job is to help keep their teeth healthy and strong. This can help your child feel more comfortable and confident about what comes next.
Read more: Tips for Keeping Your Child Cavity-Free
A Reminder for Parents About Cavities
We’ve seen many parents feel stressed when they learn their children have cavities. Many are overwhelmed with guilt, but rest assured that cavities can happen to any child, no matter how diligent you are with their oral hygiene. Try not to be too hard on yourself.
Read more: Moving Past Parental Guilt When Your Child Has Cavities
Parenting comes with its own set of challenges, but oral health doesn’t have to be one of them. At Lafayette Pediatric Dentistry, we understand that conversations about cavities and dental treatment aren’t always easy, and we’re here to help make the process a little less stressful for both parents and children.
For more than 15 years, families throughout Acadiana have trusted our team to provide care, guidance, and support every step of the way. We’re always happy to answer your questions, or your child’s, and help you feel confident about your child’s oral health.
Contact us today to learn more or schedule an appointment.